At some point in our lives all of us have experienced that empty sensation that is inevitably associated with the cease of any relationship, be it treasured or not. No separation is ever easy, let alone a divorce. Whether it’s been a long time coming or is a sudden reality, nobody is ever really prepared for what a divorce process actually entails.

Divorce papers, separation rights, economical issues, the kids, there seems to be a million and one reasons against filing for divorce and only one in favour. It’s this one reason in particular, however, that should help us to pursue life after divorce. An unoccupied mind is a dangerous tool, it only allows us to reminisce and question which way we should turn, and therefore we should fill our empty hours with stimulating activities which boost our self esteem and open doors to new acquaintances and a meaningful future.

Voluntary work could be a valid option, time and economical situation permitting. Not only does it bring purpose to our lives, but it soaks up those empty hours, otherwise dedicated to an absent partner, whilst actively contributing to a worthy cause. Quality time is also a constructive activity, be it with your children or simply on your own. However quality time shouldn’t be confused with feeling sorry for yourself. Grieving knows no time boundaries, but life does. Don’t wish it away, recognise that it forms a valuable part of the learning process and will act as a shield in future relationships.

Never be afraid to move on, change does not mean failure and letting go often seems to be the key to peace and happiness.